Do you manage stress and anxiety well? 

Stress and Anxiety

“There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.”

Shakespeare

It is agreed when it comes to stress and worry. We tend to think about the negative side of things. We fail to see things clearly and end up causing bigger problems, one can’t deny it is hard not to worry when a problem comes up knocking the door. 

Even if we are not, our brain has that annoying habit of creating urgency mostly when you are in bed trying to sleep.

Stress can infiltrate your mind and appear more important than they really are. Believe it or not

It is common to lose keys, parking tickets sometimes but we feel the panic accelerate as we dig through our pockets or bags until we become frantic, acting like a cage animal seeking freedom. Our mind go blank, lose logic until we finally collect ourselves, calm down and search with deliberation, It is only when we proceed slowly and methodically that we will ultimately achieve success and find our mislaid items. 

Cause of stress and how to address it 

1 Arguments that can be between family members, friends or spouse, remember  some arguments can be over in a minute and some last for a lifetime. Exchange of hostile words can lead to bad situation

Learn to check your conversation not to pitch high or shout. Often an argument starts from a careless choice of words. 

2.Anxiety related  to  performance and exam.- 

Be well prepared for the same

3 If someone says or does something that annoys you,

Pause for a minute to examine the situation before reacting

4. Any issue troubling you 

Never hold things inside try aring your concern with a trusted colleague, friend or spouse is also a great way to relieve stress.

5. Work related anxiety 

Aim to be tranquil to avoid arguments . Be considerate and compassionate, avoid shouting at staff, deal with patience at the office and work.

Alleviate your anger to somewhere else. A research on stress says anger and anxiety has lasting effects on health and wealth as well

Doctors say too much stress causes excess acid to seep into the stomach so watch out it can develop an ulcer. 

In book Why Zebra Don’t Get Ulcers, the Author, who is biologist and neuroscientist Robert M Sapolsky describes about an experiment with rats and clinical imposition of  stress, the result of which is quite interesting

There were three rats for experiment rat A, rat B and rat C

Series of mild electric shock was induced over time, causing them to develop a prolonged stress response.

Case – rat A was left in cage , rat B was allowed to run over to bar of wood and chew on it, rat C after receiving the shock was allowed to go across the cage and bite another rat.

Conclusion – rat A developed ulcer with time and health deteriorated, rat B and rat C had an outlet for its frustration, they were far less likely to get an ulcer. Rat C was injured by other rat in the event of bite, 

Sapolsky concluded – “We humans also deal better with stressors when we have outlets for frustration – punch a wall, take a run, find solace in a hobby. We are even cerebral enough to imagine those outlets and derive some relief: consider the prisoner of war who spends hours imagining a chess game in tremendous detail.

Manage Your stress

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“ But avoid harming self in addressing anxiety.”

Try these to calm your self

When you feel anxiety take five to ten deep breaths, it will help you tune into the reality of the situation. Instead of allowing the emotions of outright panic to take control, endeavor to channel your concern into being cool, calm and collected. This will enable you to apply reasonable and balanced thought to help you solve the problems.

It is better to redirect the stress and frustration towards good hobbies, spending time with kids and family, having pet is a great stress buster, writing and painting is also considered to be good as it rejuvenates 

you. Feeling of being loved and spreading love and gratitude for what you have is next to godliness, initially it is difficult but slowly with time if you try and act you will be the best stress manager.

Motivation for the blog – Robert Kennedy (International Motivational Coach)